Hakomi & Coaching

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Balancing Insight & Action
For a Confident Life

Addressing uncertainty and risk in major life decisions

When an important life decision needs to be made we would prefer to know for sure which choice is best. With hindsight, we all would have known the right thing to do. But we don't know yet - and there is no guarantee that our choice will bring the results we hope for.

I am offering a systematic process based on high-stake decision-making as it used by professional organizations that manage high risks of failure or safety. I have adapted this process for use with individual decisions and assume you bring a clear goal to this process. (Alternatively, we can work on clarifying your goal.) In the course of five to ten sessions we will:

• Establish what makes it hard for you to decide
  These may be emotional factors or beliefs that make it difficult to point to purpose. In this case, we will examine which approach may support you the most.
• Define your goal and how you want to measure your success with it
  A clear goal is one step - establishing criteria that help you understand whether you are moving towards it is the next.
• Explore your preparedness for risk
  Depending on your goal and life situation, we explore how conservative or risk-embracing you want to be with your decision.
• Assess the various prospects and uncertainties that come with it
  Here, we will discuss preferences and probabilities to etablish a basis for deciding in the face of uncertainty.
• Discuss an action agenda
  Your commitment to action will be the litmus test for your decision.

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Hindsight bias:
The inclination to see events that have occured as more predictable than they in fact were before they took place

What is a good decision?
A good decision is clearly framed und based on valid facts, sound assessments of uncertainties, and correct reasoning.
A good decision balances uncertainty with the level of risk that is acceptable.

The Dilemma: Decision vs. outcome:
A good decision does not guarantee a good outcome: An unwanted outcome may occur as uncertainty means that we cannot know for sure or control what will happen.
Reversely, a poor decision can still lead to a positive outcome. We were lucky.

The challenge: Making the best of it
A good decision can't eliminate risk or uncertainty - or guarantee a positive outcome. All we can do is to assess the possible prospects in terms of what we hope to accomplish - and then make a choice and commit to action.